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Listen to 3 Doors Down, "Pages", and maybe you can figure out why I quit. A person bothers to put themselves out there, and no one bothers to care what they have to say, what do you expect.

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Ok, I'm frustrated

Turns out the woman I thought was real was still a scammer. Used tamer pics of a porn star, and spouts a sob story. I thought since I'd already said I concerned about them being a scammer and they weren't going to get any money out of me, that they would have moved on. Why the kept the game doing is beyond me. Finally getting to talk to them on yahoo messenger, they conveniently lost my most important email, and almost got indignant about it. After talking about their mom, I asked how She was doing, and she says "Great." Talk about a blaring alarm. No one is "great" while dealing in cancer, especially family. That was the last straw, I did some searching, finally stumbling across a interesting scam site relating to meeting ppl online. After some noising around that site, I found a post that had one of the pics she, IT, gave me, and copies of emails very similar to the one I initially received. At first I was amused, then I wanted to hurt this jerk that made me spend money on the single site to read IT's messages, and made me make a yahoo account again, and continued to lie to me non-stop. Made me feel like an idiot. I knew something wasn't right from the start, but I gave IT the benefit of a doubt. No more. If I have to do background checks on women from now on, so be it. Week and a half of my life wasted on this @sshole. I made sure to report abuse on the yahoo account and facebook account I found. My bad day is their bad day. You don't mess with quiet guys, we snap. :) lol

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Faults alarm? Beats me...

Well, she has fallen off the face of the planet after send me a set of questions, which I answer as best I can, then say 'hey, these are pretty good, do me favor and answer these yourself, and here is a few more'. The paranoid part of me finds it an interesting coincidence. My more sensible side says maybe something happened and she is unable to get back. Problem is, I think it would have to be pretty serious, most likely with her mom. Would have been nice to get a 'hey, something came up, I promise I'll get back to you when I can'.
I took some new pictures of me, figured I'd send when she answered the questions, but I'm not even sure we are still on talking terms or not. I sent her a email a day or 2 ago, just asking if everything was ok. I even happen to find her on facebook, and sent a friend request. 5 days of silence. I'd been exploring my feelings, trying to get a better grasp of what I wanted in a relationship, what I could offer, and where I'd maybe need some help (be it from her or someone like my pastor). This is kind of a learning experience for me, I'm effectively starting from scratch on the whole relationship/dating deal, and trying to keep my bad experiences out of the way. Now I kind of feel like I'm on indefinite hold. I don't like being in the dark on what is going on.

Monday, July 18, 2011

Good news, maybe...

Well, maybe I finally get to claim some good news for a change. I've come in contact with what seems like a nice girl. There are a few things that my mind is snagging on. The first being that she grew up on Germany, lives in Michigan, but in currently with her sick mom in Malaysia. First reaction was a scammer of some sort. When I kindly pointed out my concern, her reaction to that and a few other things seemed genuine. My experience, scammers cut their losses and disappear, try to find an easier mark elsewhere. They also provided a hand full of pictures between 2 sources, all look like the same person. All seems some what reasonable, accept when I come back to the Malaysia thing. Some thing seems out of place, but it could be that I am being a bit paranoid. The introduction didn't quite seem on the straight and narrow, seeing as though we met via a singles site, which said she was in Michigan, no indication that her status had changed. That just seems important too me.
She seems serious about a relationship, and the current distance doesn't seem to bother her like it does me. I'm trying to push down my paranoia, and see how it plays out. I've laid out on the table my concerns, and explained my single status, hinting on my past bad experiences, and didn't seem to phase her, saying she understood what I was saying.
I really hope this isn't one of those 'too-good-to-be-true' type deals, part of me is waiting for the other shoe to drop.