Well, maybe I finally get to claim some good news for a change. I've come in contact with what seems like a nice girl. There are a few things that my mind is snagging on. The first being that she grew up on Germany, lives in Michigan, but in currently with her sick mom in Malaysia. First reaction was a scammer of some sort. When I kindly pointed out my concern, her reaction to that and a few other things seemed genuine. My experience, scammers cut their losses and disappear, try to find an easier mark elsewhere. They also provided a hand full of pictures between 2 sources, all look like the same person. All seems some what reasonable, accept when I come back to the Malaysia thing. Some thing seems out of place, but it could be that I am being a bit paranoid. The introduction didn't quite seem on the straight and narrow, seeing as though we met via a singles site, which said she was in Michigan, no indication that her status had changed. That just seems important too me.
She seems serious about a relationship, and the current distance doesn't seem to bother her like it does me. I'm trying to push down my paranoia, and see how it plays out. I've laid out on the table my concerns, and explained my single status, hinting on my past bad experiences, and didn't seem to phase her, saying she understood what I was saying.
I really hope this isn't one of those 'too-good-to-be-true' type deals, part of me is waiting for the other shoe to drop.